Sodaro's Stories

May 10, 2017

Less…

Filed under: Writer's thoughts — michelle sodaro @ 3:17 pm
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Just as there are things I need to do more of, there are just as certainly things I need to do less as well…

**Worrying — turns out it doesn’t help the situation in any way, shape, or form. Things always have a way of working themselves out, so worrying is wasted energy.

**Spending money — I don’t have my teacher salary anymore. Time to really stick to the budget…that’s the only way this works. And I’m not going to get into what teachers should be paid…that dead horse doesn’t need any more kicks.

**Eating out by myself — See above. Though I do this sometimes as a break to write outside of my office, but it needs, again, to stick with the budget. It is more important to me to have the rest of the year to write (and work 2nd job) than it is to have yet another Chipolte bowl.

**Beating myself up for wasted time — Relationships that didn’t go anywhere, time I could have been writing, exercising, cleaning, etc. , things I should have/could have done, friendships I never thought would have ended which ended all the same, etc. etc. etc. Time to let go and move on.

**Double work. I need to streamline some processes, consolidate some parts of the way I do things. Find what works and what can be improved.

**Mindless snacking — actually, not having any grading to do should alleviate this on its own. When I am writing (since there are very few things I can do/eat left-handed) I tend to forget to eat.

**Hiding from the world. No more un-faced fears. No more letting fear win.

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May 8, 2017

More…

Filed under: Writer's thoughts — michelle sodaro @ 3:16 pm
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So, as I am adjusting to the teacher-free life, I am realizing there are things I want to do and have more of…

** Writing (obviously, as this what was the driving force behind this career change). It will be amazing to have actual scheduled chunks of time to write every day rather than stolen moments between grading and meetings.

**Reading — there is so much I want to read and haven’t had time to. Suggestions are always welcome.

**Publishing, promoting, and all the other parts of the business side of authoring. These have all been woefully neglected.

**Relaxing — I have heard of this an am excited to check this out.

**Netflix…though as not to take away from writing or reading, but again, suggestions are always welcome. I have finally seen How I met your Mother from start to finish (and it made a lot more sense than the random episode I would catch here and there) and am in the middle of season 3 of Blue Bloods.

**Dating — It’s probably time. It will help, I think, when I am not getting lied to on a regular basis as to why work was not done. Just tell me you didn’t have time. I was always good with that. But it has affected how I see people when every day there was a different excuse, a bunch of which were not true.

**Exercising — it’s way past time. Time to stop hiding from the world.

**Smiling and laughing — though I have to admit, I did a lot of this as a teacher as well, as it is just a part of my personality.

I am sure this list will grow…but this is a mighty fine start.

May 5, 2017

Career — Author

Filed under: Writer's thoughts — michelle sodaro @ 3:14 pm
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Wow…okay…this is getting real. The first items on my to-do list this morning are to update my profession on Linked In, Facebook, and to revamp my resume. I need to put end dates on my teaching career (and I need to do this mentally as well as on my resume, as I keep thinking I have to be at school next week).  There are people who keep hoping it is just over for now, not forever…and I don’t know how to answer that. All I know is that right now I am considering it a permanent change.

I was a teacher.

I am an author.

I gave teaching 20 years of my life (not counting the schooling to get there).

I want to give my author career more than 20 years…I certainly have more than enough projects to accomplish that goal.

Hello New Career!

 

May 3, 2017

Brave

Filed under: Writer's thoughts — michelle sodaro @ 3:05 pm
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Walking away from teaching is very much like walking away from a 20-year marriage. I say that as someone who has not ever been married…but who has sacrificed and has been loyal and has devoted my whole life (at the cost of my writing and any kind of a personal life) to teaching.

A lot of people are telling me I am “so brave” to walk away from my full-time teaching career to more fully pursue my author career.

To me, it’s not about being brave, nor did it really require any kind of courage, per se. (Of course it is still very new and shiny, so maybe when it sinks in — you know, in a couple of weeks when I don’t get that teacher paycheck). I didn’t do it to be brave; it was just something I felt like I had to do.

I have lived very deliberately to not have any regrets and with the possible exception of some guys I have dated- I can honestly say I have no regrets.  (Let’s just call those fellas research, shall we?)

I have taught countless students (many of whom have become treasured friends). I have written curriculum and lesson plans to help challenge students and accomplish their goals. I have made friends at every school I have been at — friends I cannot imagine my life without knowing.

My life has been shaped (for better or worse) by every class, every student I have taught. And I have given my all to that profession. And now, I am giving my all to my writing, which has been on the back burner for far too long. So to me, it’s not about being brave at all. It’s about doing what I had to, to be true to who I am now. Something I think we should all do. What makes you feel alive? Do that. Pursue that.

May 2, 2017

No Guarantees

Filed under: Writer's thoughts — michelle sodaro @ 3:04 pm
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7 years ago there was a shiny game plan. It has taken me longer, having to do it “alone” instead of as it was originally planned…as part of an amazing duo. I put “alone” in quotes, because I am not now, nor have I ever truly been “alone” as I have an incomparable support system, both physically here or spiritually present. It has taken me longer, but I got there. I quit teaching and am working a job which allows for writing to be full time.

What I learned from losing Trav was there are no guarantees in life. We are, none of us, promised the chance to see tomorrow. Anyone who has lost a friend or loved one can attest to the fragility of life, plans or no plans, so you have to cherish every moment and memory you get with people.

What I also learned was that we have to live our lives the way that makes sense to us…not to other people…not societal expectations…just us. Because there are no guarantees that we will get another chance to make it right or different or better.

You have this moment — right now — and that’s as close as we get to a guarantee. Live your life. Follow your dreams. Accomplish your goals. Get it done.

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