Sodaro's Stories

May 2, 2017

No Guarantees

Filed under: Writer's thoughts — michelle sodaro @ 3:04 pm
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7 years ago there was a shiny game plan. It has taken me longer, having to do it “alone” instead of as it was originally planned…as part of an amazing duo. I put “alone” in quotes, because I am not now, nor have I ever truly been “alone” as I have an incomparable support system, both physically here or spiritually present. It has taken me longer, but I got there. I quit teaching and am working a job which allows for writing to be full time.

What I learned from losing Trav was there are no guarantees in life. We are, none of us, promised the chance to see tomorrow. Anyone who has lost a friend or loved one can attest to the fragility of life, plans or no plans, so you have to cherish every moment and memory you get with people.

What I also learned was that we have to live our lives the way that makes sense to us…not to other people…not societal expectations…just us. Because there are no guarantees that we will get another chance to make it right or different or better.

You have this moment — right now — and that’s as close as we get to a guarantee. Live your life. Follow your dreams. Accomplish your goals. Get it done.


August 4, 2015


“Now her heart’s a mess — praying she’ll find a way to make it.

So keep on climbing, though the ground might shake

Just keep on reaching though the limb might break.

We’ve come this far, don’t you be scared now.

Cause you can learn to fly on the way down.”  “Fly” by Maddie and Tae

I came upon this song accidentally on Pandora who had connected it to something I liked (or however the magic works). After hearing it, I was so moved by the lyrics, I had to listen to it again. It brought to mind the quite by Kurt Vonnegut (other authors have their own variation of it as well) “We have to continually be jumping off cliffs and developing our wings on the way down.”

One of the things I have fought to have more in my life is the power to be more fearless, to face my fears and do the things I fear the most. To fully live the life I am meant to live and to not let fears keep me from the things I need and want to do. I need to be flying and finding my wings on the way down.

I need to be fearless with meeting new people. Evidently, I will never find another chance at love if I don’t go out and meet people. I have tested this theory. Plus, think of all the potential future characters for novels.

I need to be fearless about sending my novels out into the cruel, cruel world. I hesitated sending my first novels out to agents. Whatever you Make of It and Arianna’s Honor/Destiny were not as easy to put into a specific genre other than fiction (though there are elements of magical realism in all of them). Broken Trust and Redeeming Trust are most definitely romance and so will be the entire Lucky Charms series. I need to create and send out query letters for them. No more excuses, Sodaro. Face this fear.

I need to be more fearless about my author life. I need to be protective of my writing time and my resources. I need to embrace my author life as fully as I am able to do so and increase this as I can, given my other responsibilities.

I need to be absolutely fearless with my budget and my health.

Everything I have ever wanted in my life, I have had to take a leap of faith and be fearless. I have always found my wings on the way down. Time to fly again, Sodaro. Watch me go!

June 3, 2014


Filed under: Writer's thoughts — michelle sodaro @ 5:20 pm
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So, anyone who has tried to hold a conversation with me knows that I am rather easily distracted…shiny things are a nemesis of mine and by “shiny things” it could be anything from a new pen, a pretty color, anything that moves, anything that doesn’t move, and actual SHINY things…in fact as I typed that sentence, I was distracted by my cup, my phone, and the fan…so it’s a pretty common occurrence for me to be distracted. I imagine it’s also fun for people who have tried to keep my interest…and I say fun for them because I would hate to think that it wasn’t fun. 😀
There are some things in life that are good distractions. Chats with friends and people who have the potential to become friends. Chats with a crush are good distractions (and fodder for the stories…as are the chats with friends, and strangers, and chats I am not even involved in but am able to hear…). Watching people…EXCELLENT distraction, and again “research” for stories. Reading a book is one of the best distractions for a writer because you get to see how other people do dialogue and setting and character development and such…same with television shows (not “reality” where dialogue is less real than it is in any other aspect of life).
There are some things in life that are bad distractions. Games…I had to let go of playing my video games because time spent leveling up was not time spent writing or working on PhD…and I miss them, but I love my novels and my future degree a lot more. Now if I could just get my games off my phone, I would be much better off. Facebook is a distraction…but a necessary evil…Law and Order marathons are a distraction…as are NCIS marathons, Law and Order SVU, etc…but those are necessary also sometimes…it’s nice to be able to have the brain go numb sometimes to just be entertained.
I want to have fewer negative distractions to my writing. I want to talk to friends and crushes and enjoy the play of words. I want to read books and watch shows that don’t make my brain cells want to kill themselves. I want to be more productive and not so distracted…but there are so many shiny things in life that it’s tough, but we all do the best we can, even with the ….OOOH, look…SHINY!!!!

June 3, 2013

Throwing paint

Filed under: Writer's thoughts — michelle sodaro @ 2:34 pm
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“Life is a great big canvas, and you should throw all the paint on it you can.” Danny Kaye
I love Danny Kaye. He was amazingly talented and acted in a time when you had to have skill because the technology didn’t exist yet to be able to fake it. I think this quote is especially appropriate for my life right now, because I have some time on my hands…and I plan on throwing as much metaphorical paint on my canvas as I can (not literal paint as I have no artistic talent whatsoever (as many of my students and any of my friends on Draw Something can surely attest to). But the metaphoric paint I am throwing on my canvas of life…well my friends, it is beautiful.
If I were to have a painting of what is in my head right now, if I could capture the fantastic chaos that exists inside my mind…you would see characters, all awhirl since there is time to play and write and edit. You would see brightly colored Ping-Pong balls, which coincide with the colors in my ColorNote ap on my phone (love this ap!!!) The Ping-Pong balls bouncing everywhere are the novels I am working on, the non-fiction books and articles I have notes for, and the projects I want to finish. It’s a busy time in my head indeed…and as Danny Kaye expressed it…I am going to throw every bit of paint on my canvas as I can. Enjoy the pictures that appear, my friends…because I know I am going to do just that.

April 1, 2013

Kicking the OCD up a notch

Filed under: Writer's thoughts — michelle sodaro @ 7:21 pm
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As it usually happens, when one aspect of life gets busier, other aspects follow suit, and it is just up to you to dig in your heels and hang on the best you can. What I find is that when my plate gets full, I kick my OCD into high gear and just get it done. There are no other options as far as I am concerned.
So my book signing was amazing…and it really just reaffirmed what I had figured out the instant I held my first copy of Whatever you Make of It and again what I knew as I held the first copy of Arianna’s Honor. This author gig is EXACTLY what I want my life to be. Since 3/16, my writing has been kicked into high gear, and it’s not going to slow down any time soon.
I have decided to get my website and business side of things into the front area of my plate. This is something I have needed help with to get started and a friend of mine, who knows little bits of just about everything, is helping with that part. And it’s been a long time coming and something I have definitely needed to get out of the “someday” category and into the “now” category.
I signed up for a “Writing for Children” course because that is something I have wanted to do for a while, and thought now would be a good time since my current living situation and employment situation allowed that to be a possibility. I wanted to learn how to take the ideas I have for kids’ books and turn them into reality.
And of course…I kicked all of this up a notch, and I am so glad I did…every day I wake up loving that I get to be an author…and I still love my teaching job…but as it always happens, it also got kicked up a notch or two…And it’s all I can do to keep my head above water…but this I know (and you should know, if you know me at all) that when the plate starts to spin, the OCD kicks in and I make lists and cross things off lists and I know this…I GET THINGS DONE.
So watch out world. I’m on a creatively-inspired high that is being majorly fueled by OCD.

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